About Difficult People and the State of Your Soul

About Difficult People and the State of Your Soul

It happens in the quietest moments and the busiest places. You step into the office, join a family gathering, or stand in line at a grocery store, and suddenly the atmosphere changes. One abrasive remark, one arrogant posture, or one rebellious attitude disrupts the entire environment. It is easy to look at that individual and ask, “Why are they like this? Why must there always be someone who spoils the peace?”

Scripture reveals that this constant collision with difficult people is neither an accident nor an administrative oversight in the order of the world. In Matt.13:24-30, Jesus presents the parable of the wheat and the tares. A farmer sows good seed in his field, but while men sleep, an enemy sows weeds directly alongside the wheat. When the servants ask if they should pull up the tares immediately, the master answers in Matt.13:28-30, "He said unto them, An enemy hath done this. The servants said unto him, Wilt thou then that we go and gather them up? But he said, Nay; lest while ye gather up the tares, ye root up also the wheat with them. Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn." While the primary, eschatological interpretation of this passage points directly to the end times—when Christ returns in His second coming to execute final judgment—the principle holds an undeniable practical truth for our daily walk.

Until that final harvest arrives, the reality of this present age is that the righteous and the unrighteous reside in the exact same spaces. You cannot escape the tares; they are intentionally left in the field until the end. But while we often view these disruptive individuals as nothing more than an unpleasant nuisance, God views these encounters through an entirely different lens. He allows them in your life not merely to test your endurance, but to expose the true condition of your own heart.

Diagnosing the Root of Strife

Understanding God’s Grace: Not in Instant Miracles but in Lasting Maturity

Understanding God’s Grace: Not in Instant Miracles but in Lasting Maturity

In many circles of modern Christianity, there is a prevailing sentiment that God is essentially "on call," always attending to the immediate needs and welfare of the believer as if He owes them or as if, through His love, He is expected to provide constant earthly comfort. Believers today often expect instant miracles or immediate answers to prayer because they figure that since they are Christians, God is obligated to shield them from all hardship. While God’s love for us is indeed infinite, this specific theology of guaranteed physical health and wealth actually belongs to God’s dealings with Israel in the kingdom dispensation. During that time, God made literal covenants with Israel to protect them, heal them, and save them from their earthly enemies as a sign of His favor, promising that "the Lord will take away from thee all sickness" (Deuteronomy 7:15) and that they would be "blessed in the basket and thy store" (Deuteronomy 28:5).

However, these national, physical covenants were not made with the Body of Christ today. We must recognize that God works with us in the Dispensation of Grace (Ephesians 3:2) in a very different way. In this present time, we are told that we "walk by faith, not by sight" (2 Corinthians 5:7), which means we do not rely on the visible "sight" of constant miracles to validate God's presence. Our primary blessings are not found in the bank account or the doctor’s office, but are "spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ" (Ephesians 1:3). While God certainly has the power and ability to work miracles today, it is not His current focus or His method for proving His love toward us. Our inheritance is spiritual and eternal, and we are instructed to set our affection on things above, not on things on the earth (Colossians 3:2).

Learning from Paul’s Example in Doctrine and Conduct

Learning from Paul’s Example in Doctrine and Conduct

Our emotions are powerful. They can surge within us, demanding action—whether through frustration, impatience, or even resentment. Yet, as believers, we are called to submit to something far greater than our fleeting feelings: the Word of God. The apostle Paul provides us with a striking example of this very principle when, after being unjustly struck in the face before the Jewish council, he humbled himself to the authority of the high priest, prioritizing God’s Word over his emotions.

Paul’s Trial Before the Jewish Leaders

In Acts 23, Paul stood before the Jewish leaders after being seized and falsely accused. As he began to speak, Ananias, the high priest, commanded that Paul be struck. Imagine the moment—a fervent servant of God, unjustly slapped across the face in a setting meant for justice. What was Paul’s initial reaction? His emotions surged, and he immediately rebuked Ananias, saying, “God shall smite thee, thou whited wall” (Acts 23:3, KJV).

Yet, in that very moment, someone informed Paul that he had spoken against the high priest. Paul, being deeply committed to God’s truth, instantly corrected himself:

"I wist not, brethren, that he was the high priest: for it is written, Thou shalt not speak evil of the ruler of thy people" (Acts 23:5, KJV).

Here lies an incredible lesson. Though Paul had a justifiable emotional reaction, he chose to submit to God’s Word. He immediately acknowledged his misstep and brought himself into alignment with scripture.